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“One cannot and must not try to erase the past merely because it does not fit the present.” – Golda Meir

One of the most brilliant moments in 1980’s cinema was the use of the “Spacetime Continuum” in Back to the Future Part 2. Peel away the flux capacitor, a youthful Michael J. Fox, and the unimaginable wonder of Mattel’s “Hoverboard,” and you are left with Robert Zemeckis’ and Bob Gale’s interpretation of the pitfalls of time travel. Actually a real physics theory, Spacetime is a math model that combines time and space into one continuum, whatever that means. The brilliance of its use in the film shines when Doc Brown illustrates the theory on a chalkboard in the derelict Hill Valley library (see above). He maps out how Bif shredded the fabric of time when he stole the Delorean Time Machine to bring back the sports almanac; thereby creating an alternate version of 1985. Bif managed not only to change his life, but (to reference the Butterfly Effect), send a wave through time and space, unimaginably changing the universe surrounding him for his own gain.

Personally, over the last couple of months, I have been thinking and learning a tremendous amount about the past. I have been making an attempt to unravel and understand the influences that have made me who I am. My Spacetime Continuum is filled with past relationships and friendships, incredible memories, awesome triumphs, missed opportunities, the angst of tragedy, and the lessons of near catastrophes. The effects of attempting to change or continuing to dwell on that past would be disastrous to my present. So although I believe in taking the time to examine the past, the key is to understand it, learn from it, and as swiftly as humanly possible, accept it. Once you have understood and accepted your past, you can use that information to define your present and future by making better decisions. “Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me,” a saying I have often quoted, applies just as strongly to your inner monologue as it does when dealing with the outside world.

Although not always the case, this personal mantra also applies in the world of nightlife and hospitality. So often you hear people wonder aloud how this person or that organization reaches certain levels of power, influence, and monetary success. Sometimes briefly it is luck; however, more often than not, sustained success is derived from an ongoing professional evolution—learning from past mistakes and working hard not to make those mistakes again, while evolving with the market. In nightlife, people often get caught up in their past, believing their press, and staying too long at the party, never accepting that it’s over. You have seen them: the 50-year-old promoter or doorman that we hope to avoid becoming. I am reminded of Jack Lemon’s character, Shelley Levene, in Glengarry Glen Ross, praying desperately for just one last shot at the big time, the Glengarry leads.

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“These are the new leads. These are the Glengarry leads. And to you they’re gold, and you don’t get them. Why? Because to give them to you is just throwing them away. They’re for closers. I’d wish you good luck but you wouldn’t know what to do with it if you got it.”

An example in the world of nightlife would be Noel Ashman, who I am positive still thinks it is 1999. Back then he owned Veruka, Derek Jeter’s favorite nightclub and one of the hottest in Manhattan. I still get phone calls from girls in his office every week. They usually start with, “Hi this is Brittany, I am calling on behalf of Noel Ashman, Samantha Ronson, Jesse Bradford, Michael Strahan, and Chris Noth to invite you to Friday nights at…” Click. I never really find out where the party is, because I hang up mid sentence, disgusted. Seriously Noel, you are a smart guy, some may even say a visionary. So get email or Facebook, and if you want to call me, call YOURSELF. As I see it, none of those celebrities either mean anything or want to be associated with your parties, so wake up and build a mousetrap that works. NY Magazine’s Grub Street reported that you are opening a new club that you say is going to be a mix of “Soho House, Bungalow 8, and Veruka.” Do you honestly think that is what the biggest city in the world is looking for? A repeat. As Warren Buffet says, “If past history was all there was to the game, the richest people would be librarians.”

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Wouldn’t it be great if we could all just jump in a Delorean, hit 88 miles per hour (literally or figuratively), and change the mistakes of our past? Or maybe dance the bump and drink doused champagne with Andy, Jade, Halston, MJ, Brooke Shields, Calvin, and Steve Rubell at 54 or Palladium? I am pretty sure it would be a good mother fuckin time and they would look at us like a bunch of squares. Or just maybe, I could pop in on myself prior to the senior prom, and warn myself that if I wear this ridiculous looking tuxedo (see white lapel picture above), I will be reliving it and regretting it through pictures for decades (also don’t miss Josh dressed as a member of the Backstreet Boys). Note to self: when it comes to formalwear, simple is always better. I have begun to believe that past successes and mistakes define an individual’s humanity, and the only way you can unlock the endless possibilities of life, is to conquer yourself, accept the past, and embrace today.

“What you need to know about the past is that no matter what has happened, it has all worked together to bring you to this very moment. And this is the moment you can choose to make everything new. Right now.” – Unknown

See you next time at Cocktail Hour, where more often than not one drink turns into ten and no one knows where and when the night will end.
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 My Spacetime Continuum

 My Spacetime Continuum

 My Spacetime Continuum